Over the past few years, the way that many people say goodbye to a loved one has been changing. While we still have many funerals and celebrations of life services in the familar ways, there is also an increasing number of what we would see as Memorial Services.
There are many reasons to have a Memorial Service for a loved one, sometimes it is hard to get everyone together in time for a funeral, sometimes the family want something more private immediately after a loved one’s passing, but these days it is most common to have a memorial after a direct cremation takes place
These days many people opt to have a "Direct Cremation" so that there is no funeral service at all at the point of cremation. However, the loss of a loved one, whether they are family or friend, is one of the most significant events that can happen in anyone’s life. To begin to grieve properly, to begin to heal and grow around your grief, it is important to acknowledge the loss and to share in that with others who share the same loss.
The process of organising and planning a service is an important part too. It gives space to focus on your loved one by thinking of the life they had, everything that you shared and what they really meant to you. Thinking about the words that you would use to talk about them, about the music they loved and the stories you want to share, all help you remember them clearly.
So even if you or your loved one themselves, has chosen direct cremation and there has been no service then, it is still so important to do something as a family or community of friends to remember and say goodbye to your loved one.
To help you with understanding your options and making some choices about what is best for you as you say those last goodbyes, I have put together a leaflet called "Remembering with Love," to give you a few ideas and thoughts.
You can download "Remembering with Love" below.
Please feel free to get in touch to talk about how I can help you have a good farewell to your loved one. There are many different ways that this can happen and we can talk over what would be the best options for you.
